The holidays are often called “the most wonderful time of the year,” but let’s be honest—sometimes, they’re anything but. Strained family relationships, the weight of grief or loss, loneliness, financial stress, and the endless to-do lists can leave you feeling less festive and more like the Grinch.
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And here’s your reminder: it’s completely okay to put yourself first this holiday season. Protecting your peace doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong—it means you’re doing what you need.
Here are a few ways to find some calm in the middle of the holiday chaos.
- Set boundaries without guilt
Whether it’s saying no to an event, limiting the time you spend with family, or taking certain topics off the table, setting boundaries is an act of self-care. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so give yourself permission to prioritize what you need to feel balanced and safe (and permission to walk away when your uncle tries to talk politics).
- Make space for your emotions
If you’re grieving a loved one, going through a breakup, or just dealing with feelings of loneliness, allow yourself to feel those emotions rather than pushing them aside. You don’t need to “get in the spirit” if it doesn’t feel authentic to you. Sometimes, what we need most is to (for lack of better terms) wallow in our feelings.
- Simplify (especially around finances)
The pressure to make the holidays perfect—buying the best gifts, hosting extravagant dinners, or traveling—can leave your mind and wallet drained. Set a realistic budget and stick to it. Remember, the whole point of the season is to spend quality time with your loved ones, not buy the most expensive gifts on their wish list.
- Stick to your routine
The holidays can be disruptive with indulgent dinners, more drinking, and less time for getting in movement as you regularly would. But this doesn’t have to mean we abandon our routines entirely. On those less-busy days, prioritize sticking to the habits that you know boost your wellbeing.
- Don’t skip out on rest
Late-night gift wrapping, endless parties, and long travel days can make it feel impossible to prioritize sleep. Try aiming for 7–9 hours of quality sleep each night. We know, we know, easier said than done- but we’re of the belief that there are very few things that a good night’s sleep can’t fix.
- Lean on support
If this season feels like too much to handle on your own, reach out for support—whether that’s calling a friend, talking to a therapist, or finding little ways to care for yourself each day. Even small habits, like a short walk or journaling, can help ease some of the tension.
One way to give your body some extra support during this busy season is by incorporating natural stress relief. Heal + Co.’s Stress Complex, formulated with ashwagandha and L-theanine, is specially made to help you stay calm and balanced when things get overwhelming. Think of it as a little gift to yourself to help you handle the holidays with more ease.
Remember, it’s okay if your holiday season looks different this year—or doesn’t fit the picture-perfect image we usually see. Contrary to what we would like to believe, life doesn’t actually play out like a Hallmark Christmas movie, and that’s okay. The best gift you can give yourself is a little extra kindness and care. You deserve it.
